Thursday, July 01, 2010

"No Matter What You've Lost"

No matter what you've lost, be it a home, a love, a friend.
Like the Mary Ellen Carter, rise again.

--"The Mary Ellen Carter" lyrics by Stan Rogers

Thanks to all from near and far for condolences.

The memorial service for Wendy was very well attended - so many people shared memories and expressed warm sentiments along with feelings of loss.

A few people took the opportunity to share some words publicly during the Words of Remembrance. I spoke briefly about the significance of a piece of Wendy's calligraphy on display, the lyrics to The Mary Ellen Carter. Wendy referred to that song as her life myth.

"Turn to, and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain
And like the Mary Ellen Carter, rise again."


Sometimes Wendy was working to raise someone, sometimes others were working to raise her, and sometimes she was working to raise herself. We'll miss her, but we'll work to rise again.

9 Comments:

Blogger Lily on the Road said...

Brent, I was so disappointed I was unable to attend Wendy's service. Seems the norm for Wendy and I, there were always things that would crop up and often our great intentions of getting together were often sabotaged. I knew Wendy would have understood this, so I said my prayer to the wind and I hope she heard it.

I truly miss her "popping" up via email, our long winded chats or her ever gracious comments on my blog or facebook.

Please accept my most sincere apologies for missing the service and you have my deepest sympathy.

Wendy certainly was one of a kind!

7/01/2010 06:03:00 pm  
Blogger Iain said...

That was a wonderful quote and really seemed to capture Wendy's spirit.

The service was a great tribute to a great person.

7/02/2010 07:07:00 am  
Blogger stronger said...

Beautiful

7/02/2010 09:46:00 am  
Blogger IronHoosier said...

Thanks for sharing about Wendy. I wish I had known her in person better, but I felt I really knew her even if it were virtual. She certainly picked me up this past year, she was an angel sent to us all. I truly believe this.

My condolences and please share more about Wendy if you can someday..:-)

7/03/2010 09:28:00 am  
OpenID Larry said...

A beautiful sentiment, elegantly spoken and now written.

7/04/2010 08:39:00 pm  
Blogger Deb said...

The service was lovely, Brent. I was amazed when you rose to speak, and you were so eloquent. Well done.

7/05/2010 06:25:00 am  
Blogger Nytro said...

Hi Brent,
I've been meaning to shoot you a little note offering my condolences. Your sister was a wonderful woman and one that I wish I'd gotten to know even better. She always had something kind or encouraging to say on FB or the blog. I only met her once, but she was such an incredible motivation to me. I will miss her kind words and thoughts that popped up on so many blogs that I wrote or that I read. What a special spirit.

God bless you and your family.

-Nytro

7/13/2010 05:29:00 pm  
Anonymous Denise Aitken said...

Brent,

My apologies for not contacting you personally sooner. I have communicated with Jenny several times.
I am deeply sorry for your loss.
I am glad Wendy had her visit with you and that you were with her when she died.
I lived 2 doors away from Wendy for 20 years. After my breakdown and while Wendy was still recovering from her traffic accident ordeal, we bacame close friends. We shared everything with each other.
Although 8 years older, I learned so much from Wendy about nature, clothes, jewelry and, most of all, the will to survive.
I loved her as I do my family. My loss can not be compared to yours and your parents, but I miss her.
If her garden needs tending, or/and assistance is required in clearing Wendy's house, I am more than willing to help.
Wendy and I shared a love of shoes and I would be interested in purchasing some of them as well as one of her art works. They would be wonderful keepsakes.
I have not telephoned your parents about this because I am not sure how well they are dealing with the loss. If you think they would not mind direct contact from me, please let me know at gda1951@sympatico.ca.
Once again, my sincere, heartfelt condolences.
Denise

8/07/2010 01:25:00 pm  
Anonymous Denise Aitken said...

Brent,

My apologies for not contacting you personally sooner. I have communicated with Jenny several times.
I am deeply sorry for your loss.
I am glad Wendy had her visit with you and that you were with her when she died.
I lived 2 doors away from Wendy for 20 years. After my breakdown and while Wendy was still recovering from her traffic accident ordeal, we bacame close friends. We shared everything with each other.
Although 8 years older, I learned so much from Wendy about nature, clothes, jewelry and, most of all, the will to survive.
I loved her as I do my family. My loss can not be compared to yours and your parents, but I miss her.
If her garden needs tending, or/and assistance is required in clearing Wendy's house, I am more than willing to help.
Wendy and I shared a love of shoes and I would be interested in purchasing some of them as well as one of her art works. They would be wonderful keepsakes.
I have not telephoned your parents about this because I am not sure how well they are dealing with the loss. If you think they would not mind direct contact from me, please let me know at gda1951@sympatico.ca.
Once again, my sincere, heartfelt condolences.
Denise

8/07/2010 01:25:00 pm  

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